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A Matter of Time: What the same-sex marriage crowd isn’t telling us.

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There are two issues currently in different courts which need to be recognized and cautiously understood when discussing the topic of marriage. One issue is occurring more frequently as states battle the same-sex marriage proponents, the other is not yet a hot topic issue in this country; though we would be foolishly blind to ignore its implications.

 

In an article picked up by the Alliance Defense Fund, two lesbian mothers who are former partners are battling for joint custody over their 11 and 8 year old sons. Siobhan LaPiana gave birth to the two boys, while Rita Goodman shared in the parenting duties over their 10 year domestic partnership. And now that the couple has split up the biological mother wants sole custody of the two boys.

 

This is a trend that we are going to see more of as the battle to redefine marriage and the family continues. Previously we have wrestled dead-beat dads or an abusive parent. But nine times out of ten there is always at least one biological parent that is capable of providing a safe, nurturing environment for the children where they are capable of growing.

 

But what we will continue to face in ever growing numbers is an entire generation of kids being reared by same-sex couples that may or may not stay together for the rest of their lives. And though separation and divorce are an epidemic problem in society as a whole, the argument of whether or not to place children with a biological parent or non-biological person has never been an issue; until now. 

 

The second issue, currently in a Canadian court, has startling implications for the United States if we choose to follow Canada’s lead by legalizing same-sex marriage. The headline says it all, “Same-Sex Marriage Used to Defend Polygamy in Canada.”

 

Two men are accused of being married to more than one woman at a time, and leading polygamous communities. Winston Blackmore is said to be married to 20 women, while James Oler is charged with being married to 2 women. Their defense is that if homosexuals can marry why can’t they marry two or three, or twenty women?

 

In the article on the Alliance Defense Fund website, Blackmore’s lawyer made the following statement:

 

“If (homosexuals) can marry, what is the reason that public policy says one person can’t marry more than one person?”

 That statement should be engraved in stone and placed where every American citizen can see it. Because, and you can take this to the bank, if same-sex marriage is legalized in the United States it will be just a very short time before every other type of cohabitation is sought after. We will see advocacy groups seek legalization of polygamy, incestuous relationships, poly-amorous relationships, relationships with minors, and at the bottom of the barrel will be those wanting relationships with animals.

 

Many of these relationships are taking place illegally right here, right now. So legitimizing them through legal action is not that far-fetched of an idea.

 

The bottom line, when you seek to destroy one of society’s foundational pillars you will inevitably pave the way for an ‘anything and everything goes’ mentality. You won’t hear this news in the media; these are the ideas that opponents of traditional marriage don’t want you to hear. We must protect traditional marriage before anyone and everyone is allowed to define it for us.

 

 

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Written by Nathan Cherry

January 23, 2009 at 3:40 pm

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  1. Red Herring. Marriage equality for same-sex couples has nothing to do with polygamy. SSM is still a dyad relationship. There are no legal issues to resolve because the existing 1 on 1 rules applies.

    Polygamy creates problems of “Who is next of kin?”

    Polygamy is historically abusive to womaen, and the recent fundamentalist Mormons scandals do nothing to suggest that has changed.

    Polygamy is about asymmetric power: rich man / multiple powerless women, and there is nothing to suggest any interest in the other option of 1 woman / mutliple men.

    Polygamy bans are clearly defensible for non-religious reasons. SSM bans are indefensible in a legal system that has non-establishment.

    gary47

    January 26, 2009 at 4:38 pm

  2. Perhaps heterosexuals should start an Institution of Mating that does legally acknowledge the existence of mating other than being a sexual offense.

    vladseventysix

    January 26, 2009 at 10:17 pm

  3. […] A Matter of Time: What the same-sex marriage crowd isn’t telling us: […]

  4. A novel solution to this problem would be to legalize polygamy but leave community property laws in place so that the first woman to divorce him takes half his worth. I can see it now as a horde of women dressed in their ankle to wrist battle dresses fight it out on the courthouse steps to see who gets to file first.

    zyworski

    February 19, 2009 at 4:19 am

  5. […] Further Food for Thought: A Matter of Time: What the same-sex marriage crowd isn’t telling us. « Family Voice […]

  6. […] The Blog of the Family Policy Council of West Virginia has this post that links to the ADF Alliance Alert reports: . . . we will continue to face in ever growing numbers is an entire generation of kids being reared by same-sex couples that may or may not stay together for the rest of their lives. And though separation and divorce are an epidemic problem in society as a whole, the argument of whether or not to place children with a biological parent or non-biological person has never been an issue; until now . . . […]


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