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The Homosexual “Marriage” Debate

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Today, I (Jeremy Dys) was a guest on “Talkline with Hoppy Kercheval.” Debating the issue of homosexual “marriage” with me was Jennifer Chrisler, executive director of the Family Equality Council, a group dedicated to highlighting “equality” for LGBTQ headed families.

If you did not hear the debate, MetroNews has it covered on their website and, if you hurry, you can download most of the debate on your computer, by clicking here.

I wanted to elaborate on two issues raised by Ms. Chrisler in the debate:

1. Chrisler called illegitimate the nonpartisan, social science research I quoted from that demonstrates that children raised outside of a home with their married parents. You are welcome to review that research for yourself (link opens PDF) or by going to the Center for Law and Social Policy (, and Child Trends (

Though Chrisler cited “30 years” of social science research that supports homosexual marriage, the reality is much different. In fact, there are no long term studies available in support of homosexual marriages. Thus, to get them we essentially place our children in the midst of a social science experiment. What studies we do have, are either ones that compare homosexual couples with divorced households or have been forced through by a committee of a few. The only long-term, nonpartisan, social science research that exists says that the best environment to raise children is within a home where children benefit from the presence of their married parents. Thus, government should not promote, nor should courts impose, policies and systems that deprive children of a mom and a dad.

2. The crux of Ms. Chrisler’s argument today was that, “love is enough to raise a family.” Unfortunately, while love is vital to marriage, any who have been married know it takes much, much more than that to sustain a marriage – especially when life gets unloving. I was struck by a quote from noted theologian John Stott on the subject of love. Commentating on Romans, Stott explains:

For love is not the blind sentiment it is traditionally said to be. On the contrary, it is discerning. It is so passionately devoted to the beloved object that it hates every evil which is incompatible with his or her highest welfare.

In reality, what Ms. Chrisler’s argument is about is self-love, or love of self. That is incompatible with the “highest welfare” of the right object of love: the family. What you hear time and again from those who seek to redefine marriage is that doing so allow adults to experience an emotional benefit in their lives. This issue is bigger than a “pesonal relationship.” How can we justify hurting millions of children for the possible emotional benefits of a very small number of adults?

Forget the vast amount of nonpartisan research, commonsense tells us that children need a mom and a dad.

Ms. Chrisler is wrong in terms of research and of “good-feelings.” And, she is yet to answer the ultimate question: which parent doesn’t matter – mom or dad? Every time government has cheapened marriage, the impact on children has been disastrous.

For West Virginians, to only proactive way to affirmatively defend marriage in West Virginia is to amend our constitution. Our children in West Virginia must not be subject to a government that knowingly deprives them of the benefit of a mom and a dad.


Written by Jeremy Dys

June 17, 2008 at 7:18 pm

Posted in Marriage

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  1. Who are you to tell people how to raise their children and live their lives?


    June 18, 2008 at 7:37 pm

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